“I believe the story we tell and how we represent India is how we carry forward the value of our culture and what we represent. Being Indian’s in America, a large part of who we are is what India and Indian culture has given us, we may not like everything about India; each country has it owns beauty that cannot be compared. If we choose to appreciate each country for what it is, there is no room for comparison and happiness is a given.”
After I came back from an India trip last year , I went to work the next day sitting in rush hour traffic. Listening to the news, talk of protests and discrimination and other common topics; a typical 5-7 pm scenario in the DMV area.That’s when it dawned on me,that a few days ago, I was in another country doing the exact same thing ( sitting in rush hour and listening to similar conversations.) And I was like wow…same ish different country! So then I was like why do people immigrate to do the same thing in a different country? Given, I do understand that certain countries allow much more personal freedom than other countries; and an individuals core beliefs may align more with the general beliefs of the population of one country over another. But, I guess the deeper question was, why do people bash their own environment, and do people immigrate with a mindset of seeking a certain happiness in another environment, that they believe lacks in their current environment? How is it that in the same country, some people are extremely happy and some people are extremely unhappy with the same situation and environment? The same America that Americans complain about is the same golden land that Indians seek; and the same India that Indians complain about is the golden land that American’s seek.
I believe-and again this is purely my opinion-that it doesn’t matter where we are what country we are in and what environment; it’s what we make of it. The more we choose to compare and judge, especially based on assumption, the unhappier we are. ‘When we water our own grass it will always be greener”; how we respond and react to the environment is what our experience will be in that environment. I believe that happiness in an environment comes from dropping comparisons. If we choose to make another environment our home I don’t think it’s right to bash another place. I believe that by appreciating every country for what it is we can be happy; how we respond to it, our attitude, and our choice to be happy or not within our environment and given circumstance.
Many times as immigrants we leave our country expecting another country to provide us the happiness that we lacked because of xyz reasons; we are always seeking happiness outside. If we don’t attain the happiness we left everything to seek; we begin justifying and even bashing where we came from to justify our actions and also create a negative impression of India, since we are all ambassadors. At the same time many who choose to make the best of each country with an appreciation for each country spread a positive outlook. As I have written in my other posts, I believe that comparison and a one-up attitude is where a story of unhappiness and lack begins. However if we choose to look at the positives at any situation you don’t carry a negative feeling and you project and tell a positive story.Unfortunately a fact I have experienced( not in my own house), among Indians in America, is strong comparison of America to India. I believe the story we tell and how we represent India is how we carry forward the value of our culture and what we represent. Being Indian’s in America, a large part of who we are is what India and Indian culture has given us, we may not like everything about India; each country has it’s own beauty and it cannot be compared. If we choose to appreciate each country for what it is, there is no room for comparison and happiness is a given.
“The Indian Girl”
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